About this time each year, I do a lot of reflecting on things gone right and things gone wrong over the past 365.25 days… or so. Today was no different. Actually, it was much more intense than years past. The reason, I suspect, is due to the amount of downtime I had during this holiday break or the burning desire to… get back to work. Huh?
While at my office on my first day back, I kicked off the new year by giving last year’s resolution one more pull of the trigger - which was to “take time to celebrate the positive moments, the small accomplishments and just let BE”. (I completely stink at doing this. My approach is more along the lines of “Ok… you did it, but you’re miles behind where you should be on the next goal.” All the while, I realize how stupid it is to stay motivated going into the next project when you already feel like you’re way behind where you should be. Truth is I could easily list off WAY more failures in the past year than I could accomplishments. Don’t judge... I’m working on it.)
Reflecting on 2013
Anyway... as a means of narrowing down the self-fulfilling “Atah Boys” I intended on giving myself for the sake of making the year 2013 happy, I actually challenged myself to look back at the last 10 years and recall an accomplishment that is still alive and kicking today. The most obvious subjects were my two beautiful daughters, Mady & Katelyn. In an attempt to challenge myself a bit more, I spent some time brainstorming ideas using the parameters of “fun” and “sustainable”. Besides, those who know me know that I frequently use the phrase “It’s hard to kill a kid”. Let’s just say that choosing my kids as my reflective kudos would have been the easy way out, hence the mental move onward.
Using the parameters “fun” and “sustainable”, the first accomplishment to come to mind was an outdoor music festival that I founded nearly 10 years ago called the “Greenstock Music Festival”. Although the original name and concept was a little different than what it has become today, Greenstock still continues to bring quality entertainment, camping, music, outdoor sports and innovation to hundreds of event-goers each year; with an eco-friendly and environmentally “off the grid” twist. (Note: that the first adjective used here was “quality”.) This high-quality annual event still thrives today in the backwoods of Brown Country, Indiana - bigger and better than it ever could if I were still at the helm. 2014 marks it’s 10th anniversary.
The smartest thing I did for Greenstock, the most important step in this accomplishment, was to get out of the way.
To grow, personally or professionally, you need to have an exit plan.
I will never forget the bittersweet moment on my last Saturday evening of the festival in mid-August 2009. I love this little festival. My baby. However, trying to run a music festival that you live 700 miles from is something I wouldn’t recommend to anyone. In now my second year visiting the festival, traveling all the way from Charleston, I knew this was either the last night of a 5-year festival or the moment I needed to trust my baby in the hands of others. I hated to see the festival, and all of that work that dozens of us had put into it each year, come to an end simply because I had moved. On the other hand, my ego had trouble processing the thought of someone else raising my baby. What if they fail and blame it on me? What if the new parents are better at raising my baby than I am? What if I’m not even missed? What if they succeed and forget about all of the blisters, backaches and late-nights that have paved the way?
After much thought, and a greater interest in the festival living on rather than dying at the hands of my own ego, I introduced my partner, the Proprietor of the festival grounds, to the next family. The next family was a team of band members and management that I knew, without a doubt, would take my baby to the next level. At the moment of making the introduction from one party to the next, I realized two things. First, my real passion in life is not only putting things together that make people’s lives better, but putting people together in an organic and completely unselfish way. I absolutely love making connections. I’m a matchmaker, no doubt about it. The second realization was the feeling I had after making the connection. It was much more like breaking up with a girlfriend, introducing her to the new kid in town, and then sitting back while they make out for the first time. Damn that was hard!
Today, I not only remembered that moment 1237 days ago as if it was yesterday, but I also recalled that I had taken a picture of the very moment. I may have seen that photo one other time, but it was sitting there waiting for me today. Until today, I haven’t shared this very emotional moment with anyone. Looking at that picture, remembering that very moment, once again brought intense feelings that can only be described as bittersweet.
So what did all of this teach me today? And how is this story relevant to the New Year, or my profession as a quality expert? To me, this moment is a reminder that to grow - either personally or as an organization - you need to have an exit plan. You need to continue to work yourself out of a job. You need to understand when to get the hell out of the way. Regardless of how important you think your skills or knowledge might be if you’re not moving forward then you’re likely moving backwards. Whether your responsibilities are a festival, climbing the corporate ladder or working your way through academia, you need to ask yourself… how long do you really want to repeat the same day over and over again? Groundhog Day anyone?
In this New Year, and in the words of the great Kenny Rogers, I pledge to improve myself, my company and others around me by knowing when to hold ‘em and knowing when to fold ‘em. Although Kenny was here first… as a Quality professional, I feel compelled to lend more credence to lessons that are accompanied by acronyms (that’s a whole other blog). One of the simplest principles I’ve learned in my professional career is known as “The A.C.E. Principle". In order to improve effectively, you must remember A, C and E or "ADD, CHANGE and ELIMINATE”. In 2014, I challenge you to focus on the “E”. In order to realize the true value of your contributions, you must ask yourself to step aside in order to evaluate the true quality of your work. Leave a comment and let us know what are you going to eliminate in 2014?
All the best in 2014!
p.s. Interested in more advice on having the best year ever? Check out a previous blog acommoncenter.com/bestyearever for more tips in making 2014 awesome.